What I learned this week, April 8, 2022

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A Creative Solution to ‘the Friendship Desert of Modern Adulthood’

“I knew many old couples who had happy and loving arranged marriages. I thought, If it worked for them, why couldn’t it work for friendships?


Nasher Sculpture Center, Dallas, Texas

U.S. life expectancy falls for 2nd year in a row

Despite the availability of life-saving COVID-19 vaccines, so many people died in the second year of the pandemic in the U.S. that the nation’s life expectancy dropped for a second year in a row last year, according to a new analysis.


My bicycle locked up to the TRex in Exposition Park, Dallas, Texas

A doctoral student may have discovered fossils from the day the dinosaurs died

This story isn’t exactly breaking news since it’s about something that happened 66 million years ago, but there is a reason it’s getting fresh attention now. Next week the BBC is releasing a special narrated by David Attenborough titled “The Day the Dinosaurs Died.” The special focuses on a unique dig site in North Dakota called Tanis where evidence suggests a jumble of fossils were formed on the day a large asteroid struck the earth about 66 million years ago.xxx


Running up that hill at the end.

How to Start Running: A Beginner’s Guide

Want to start a running habit but have no idea where to start? Here is everything you need to know to start running and actually enjoy it.


Running of the Bulls, New Orleans

Klain Says Biden Doesn’t Believe Hunter Broke Any Laws

On Sunday, Joe Biden’s White House Chief of Staff told George Stephanopoulos that Biden doesn’t believe his son Hunter broke any laws, despite his past dealings that are currently under investigation by the Department of Justice, which a CNN analyst said earlier this week could result in his being indicted.


Know Who’s Bummed About Russia’s Military Failure In Ukraine? China

A goodly part of the world is pleased about the manifest failure of Vlad’s Big Ukraine Adventure, some are indifferent to it, but only Russia, client-state Syria, and puppet-state Belarus really seem upset about it.

Know who else is bummed? China.


The drone coming in for a landing. She would catch it as it landed.

Ex-Zelensky Aide Says Ukrainian Army Uses ‘Terminator’ Drones That Make Russians Think Skynet is Chasing Them

The Ukrainian army has come up with a clever way to save ammunition, a former advisor to President Volodymyr Zelensky said, by modifying commercial drones to resemble something out of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Terminator films, scaring Russian soldiers into thinking “something that belongs to Skynet” is chasing them so they lead the drone back to their base and the Ukrainians can then blast them into the afterlife.


What I learned this week, April 1, 2022

Braindead Brewing, Deep Ellum, Dallas, Texas

10 Simple Things to Make You Happier At Home

Our homes are an extension of who we are: what we do within the walls of our abodes shapes our mood, affects our productivity, and influences our outlook on life. Scientific studies have shown that we can have an impact on our happiness by adjusting the tiny little habits and routines that constitute our daily lives—we are, in fact, in control of our outlook on life.


Karma, Do-Ho Suh, 2011. Korea, Brushed Steel with Stone Base, The Sydney and Walda Besthoff Sculpture Garden

The Day Dostoyevsky Discovered the Meaning of Life in a Dream

“And it is so simple… You will instantly find how to live.”


Mental time travel is a great decision-making tool — this is how to use it

When the future seems largely unpredictable, is there anything you can do to prepare for it?

“Yes!” says futurist and game designer Jane McGonigal. All you need to do is to tap into your imagination and envision all your potential futures — using what she calls “futures thinking.” 


Artwork in window, Waxahachie, Texas

Losing My Ambition

I have abandoned the notion of ambition to chase the absolute middle of the road: mediocrity.


Lee walking in the surf at Crystal Beach. I checked my old blog entries – this was December 29, 2002. Almost twenty years ago.

25 Tips to Follow for When You’re Walking for Weight Loss

Our experts share ways that you can burn fat and improve your overall health by walking.


Rest Area
The trail runs through some thick woods between the train line and the creek south of Forest Lane. There is a nice rest area built there. This homeless guy was sitting in the rest area, reading and writing in his notebook. We talked about the weather and I helped him find a lost sock.

Susceptibility to Mental Illness May Have Helped Humans Adapt over the Millennia

Psychiatrist Randolph Nesse, one of the founders of evolutionary medicine, explains why natural selection did not rid our species of onerous psychiatric disorders


A ruined and despairing Gervaise at the end of the film.

The Oscars always get it wrong. Here are the real best pictures of the past 46 years.

With the perspective of time, we can now discern what movie was actually the best


129 Ways to Get a Husband

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”

― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

One of the articles – Judging by the filename I think it is from Mccall’s magazine – from sometime in the 50’s.

I was working on my home computer a bit – cleaning out old and useless files… when I came across a folder of images called “husband.” It has clips of a couple of magazine articles from the 50’s on how to get a husband. Some files had the name “Mccalls” in it – so some must be from that magazine. If you want to know, I looked it up to see what happened to the magazine – after a bit over a century and a quarter of popularity it was sold to Rosie O’Donnell and was renamed Rosie in 2001. Not surprisingly, it folded a year later.

I have no idea where these images came from or why they are on my computer. Some are a bit amusing, though. If you are looking for a husband, here’s a few tips from seventy five or so years ago.

If they help – you can thank me later.

What I learned this week, March 25, 2022


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My coffee thermos.

“Nightmare” Of Factors Pushing World Into Coffee Deficit 

“Mega Emergency” Unfolds For World’s Top Coffee Growers As Fertilizer Costs Spike 


The Drummer, Michael Sandle, Sydney and Walda Besthoff Sculpture Garden

The Real ‘Reset’ Is Coming

The prophets of the new world order sowed the wind and they will soon reap the whirlwind of an angry public worn out by elite incompetence, arrogance, and ignorance.


Have a drink.

I’m a bartender. Here are 3 of the best and 3 of the worst cocktails to order.

There are a few tried-and-true orders that are universally delicious, and some that typically don’t hit the mark.


The clock on top of the carriage house. I don’t know what is up with that sculpture hanging off the side.

Putting Time In Perspective

Humans are good at a lot of things, but putting time in perspective is not one of them. It’s not our fault—the spans of time in human history, and even more so in natural history, are so vast compared to the span of our life and recent history that it’s almost impossible to get a handle on it. If the Earth formed at midnight and the present moment is the next midnight, 24 hours later, modern humans have been around since 11:59:59pm—1 second. And if human history itself spans 24 hours from one midnight to the next, 14 minutes represents the time since Christ.


Decatur, Texas

Democrats Promise Free Gas Money for Everybody!

Uranium, oil and technology: How Russia got stronger as Bidens and Clintons got richer


Movie Poster for First Spaceship on Venus (Silent Star) – I remember the excitement of seeing this poster, even though I was probably six years old at the time.

Gilbert V. Levin, Who Said He Found Signs of Life on Mars, Dies at 97 – The New York Times (nytimes.com)

Gilbert Levin: Scientist who sought out life on Mars | The Independent

Gilbert Levin and Life on Mars – The Primordial Scoop

Life on Mars? 40 Years Later, Viking Lander Scientist Still Says ‘Yes’ | Space


Deep Ellum, Dallas, Texas

21 Things People Were Shocked, Confused, And Bamboozled To Learn Later In Life

I always thought the cotton that came in an aspirin bottle was necessary and important – for decades I carefully replaced it whenever I took out a pill.


What I learned this week, March 18, 2022

The camera is focused with the ground glass

What you should know about film photography today

Going back to film photography? Here’s what’s changed in the last few years.


How to stop catastrophising – an expert’s guide

A clinical psychologist suggests a three-pronged plan for tackling anxiety and approaching each day logically and positively


Design District Dallas, Texas

A Love Letter to Driving Alone

Embarking on a road trip by yourself is solo travel taken to another level.


Snails on a Beer Stein.

Ancestral dreams

We’re not the only beings that dream. What visions might sleep bring to a cell, an insect, a mollusk, an ape?


Magazine Street, New Orleans

Annie Londonderry Barely Knew How to Ride a Bike When She Set Off Around the World

The record-setting 19th-century adventure was the result of a bet.


Woman writing in a Moleskine Notebook, Wichita, Kansas

Garth Greenwell on Writing Fiction like a Poet

“I did, in a weird way, write a novel like a poem.”


What Have Two Years of ‘Two Weeks to Slow the Spread’ Taught Us?

Two years ago this week, everything changed. We had heard the threats of COVID-19 for a couple of months by then, but by the middle of March, we were in full-blown pandemic mode.


What I learned this week, March 11, 2022

M41 Walker Bulldog Liberty Park Plano, Texas

The Putin Doctrine

A Move on Ukraine Has Always Been Part of the Plan


(click to enlarge) Mural, Deep Ellum Dallas, Texas

NASA is launching a new quantum entanglement experiment in space

The researchers will test if their tech can produce and detect quantum entanglement on the International Space Station.


Trinity River Bottoms, Dallas, Texas

What is a law of nature?

Laws of nature are impossible to break, and nearly as difficult to define. Just what kind of necessity do they possess?


There was live music at the start.

A Decade of Music Is Lost on Your iPod. These Are The Deleted Years. Now Let Us Praise Them.

From 2003 to 2012, music was disposable and nothing survived.


“Fast fashion” furniture has given us a world of crappy couches

Sure, that couch you bought on Wayfair is too uncomfortable to sit on, but at least it looks nice.


Rotterdam Express Container Ship New Orleans, Louisiana

The bizarre deep-sea creatures living on the Endurance shipwreck

Check out these animals that have colonized the 1915 wreck.


M41 Walker Bulldog Liberty Park Plano, Texas

What If Russia Loses?

A Defeat for Moscow Won’t Be a Clear Victory for the West


What I learned this week, March 04, 2022

Poydras Street New Orleans

The Eagles are Back!

I have been avidly following the saga of the young pair of Bald Eagles at White Rock Lake here at Dallas. A local school has a streaming webcam of their new nest.


Golden Boy, AT&T Plaza, Dallas, Texas

The Changing Geography of U.S. Talent

Coastal metro areas continue to dominate the market for knowledge and creative workers. But other cities in the middle of the country are starting to gain ground.


First page of notebook found in Main Street Garden Park, Dallas, Texas

The chronic stress survival guide: how to live with the anxiety and grief you can’t escape

Stress can feel like a baseline condition for many of us – especially during a pandemic. But there are ways to help alleviate the very worst of it, whether through support, sleep or radical self-care


This woman was waving a turkey leg out of her food trailer. When someone came up to buy one, she said, “Let me get you a fresh one hon, this is my demo model, I’ve been waving it out this window for hours.”

Can We Move Beyond Food?

Some powders and drinks boast all of the necessary nutrients a body needs — no grocery trips required. But it isn’t clear how drinking our meals might affect our health.


Lucadores, Oak Cliff, Dallas, Texas

The Dark Side of Resilience

There is no doubt that resilience is a useful and highly-adaptive trait, especially in the face of traumatic events. However, it can be taken too far. For example, too much resilience could make people overly tolerant of adversity. At work, this can translate into putting up with boring or demoralizing jobs — and particularly bad bosses — for longer than needed. In addition, too much resilience can get in the way of leadership effectiveness and, by extension, team and organizational effectiveness. Multiple studies suggest that bold leaders are unaware of their limitations and overestimate their leadership capabilities and current performance, making them rigidly and delusionally resilient and closed off to information that could be imperative in fixing — or at least improving — behavioral weaknesses. While it may be reassuring for teams, organizations, and countries to select leaders on the basis of their resilience — who doesn’t want to be protected by a tough and strong leader? — such leaders are not necessarily always good for the group as a whole.


Woman writing in a Moleskine Notebook, Wichita, Kansas

There is Such a Thing as Talent: Elizabeth Hardwick on Writing

Today, on Elizabeth Hardwick’s birthday, the best thing to do is to pick up a copy of Sleepless Nights, or perhaps her Collected Essays, and find a quiet corner in which to read them. This may, however, leave you wondering how such literary magic is possible, and maybe even wishing you had a small compilation of Hardwick’s comments about the art and the making of it.


Ruth and Naomi, Leonard Basking, 1979, Bronze, Sydney and Walda Besthoff Sculpture Garden

Micromanipulation: the covert tactic that narcissists use in arguments to reassert control

Micromanipulation is a subtle form of emotional abuse that narcissists use in their closest relationships to regain a sense of control: here’s how to recognise its damaging effects. 


The Price of Wisdom

“The price of wisdom and integrity is despair”

I came across the quote: “The price of wisdom and integrity is despair” in the above Youtube video tonight and it resonated to me. I’m feeling a lot of despair right now but not much wisdom and integrity.

Will work on unpacking it – but I also need to get some sleep.

The Dizziness of Freedom

“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.”
― Søren Kierkegaard , The Concept of Anxiety: A Simple Psychologically Orienting Deliberation on the Dogmatic Issue of Hereditary Sin

Artwork in the Braindead Brewing Company, Deep Ellum, Dallas, Texas

Today I finished a difficult work project. The culmination was six straight uninterrupted hours – from noon to six – staring at multiple computer monitors with spreadsheets, database reports, pages of notes, online forms and an ancient light-powered calculator in my palm.

What surprised me was how I felt when I finished. I felt like someone had hit me in the back of the head. I was tired, sure, but very dizzy and innervated.

Does thinking really take energy? Was my noggin out of oxygen? Does gray matter get worn out like a muscle?

At home I ate a little, stumbled into bed and fell into the sleep of the dead. For four hours.

At least it is done. The world can go on.

What I learned this week, February 26, 2022

Cook throwing dough at Serious Pizza, Deep Ellum, Dallas, Texas

2 Tips I Wish I Learned Before I Bought This Cast Iron Skillet


Sylvia Plath and the Loneliness of Love


The Crystal Hunters of Chamonix


This Is the Most Bizarre Grammar Rule You Probably Never Heard Of


No, Shawn Bradley Wasn’t Paralyzed in a “Bicycle Accident”


A Kansas Bookshop’s Fight with Amazon Is About More Than the Price of Books


A Bard’s Eye View